"HABITS", DEFINED

“HABITS” DEFINED

Our character, basically, is a composite of our habits. Habits are powerful factors in our lives. Because they consistently follow us, often unconscious patterns, they constantly, daily express our character and produces our effectiveness or ineffectiveness.

But how do we define an example for habits in context of what we are talking here?

Let us take most fundamental habit of a human being, i.e “Listening to others”.

Communication is the most important skill in life. Reading, writing, speaking and listening are the four basic types of communication. We spend most of our time in communicating. But consider this, we have spent years learning how to read, how to write and how to speak. But listening? Did we do any training that enables you to listen so that you really, deeply understand others?

Are we listening to our work associates? Are we listening to our spouse? Are we listening to our children? Are we listening to our parents?

May be yes in some extend, not fully. Because we constantly tell them what we think, but we never really listen to them. Until and unless we search out correct principles of human interaction, we may not even KNOW we need to listen.

Here comes the first contribution to our habit, “KNOWLEDGE (what to do, why to)”.

Even if we do know that in order to interact effectively with others we really need to listen to them, we may not have the SKILL, means we may not know HOW to really listen deeply to another human being.

Here come the second contribution to our habits, “SKILL (How to do?)”

But knowing we need to listen and knowing how to listen is not enough. Unless we WANT to listen, unless we have the DESIRE, it won’t be a habit in our life.

This is what third contribution to our habits, “DESIRE (want to?)”

So creating a habits requires work in all three dimensions. Knowledge is the theoretical paradigm, the WHAT TO DO and WHY. SKILL is the HOW TO DO. And DESIRE is the motivation, the WANT TO DO. In order to make something a habit in our lives, we have to have all three.

 

Watch your thoughts; they become words.

Watch your words; they become actions.

Watch your actions; they become habits.

Watch your habits; they become character.

Watch your characters; they become your destiny.

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. - Aristotle 

Keep Winning 

~Your Madoo

FEAR -> “SO WHAT” -> FAITH

When you are small, when you used to fall down people used to laugh at you, did you ever bother? No, you used to laugh yourself, get up and started walking! But as you grow up, you start judging yourself what other people think of you rather than thinking of yourself. Today if you fail, the first thing you do is, you look around and see whether people have seen you or not. 

Every individual is made up of three layers, I mean three psychological layers which we are made off....

1. Being good
2. Feeling good
3. Looking good

When you are small you want to first "be good" by giving your personal things (pencils, food!!!) to others...and then "feeling good" for the same and finally "looking good" with least priority. 

But as you grow, priority of these layers got changed as "looking good" and "feeling good" and "be good" of no use...Your entire life becomes depending on what other people are thinking about you which is extremely dangerous.

1. Looking good
2. Feeling good
3. Being good

This is why a word "fear" comes to our life. When you grow we are getting into "fear" of failure by thinking about others. 

This is where we need to know about the power of two words "SO WHAT?"...when you are in difficult situation ask yourself "SO WHAT?" that will help you to convert from FEAR situations!!! be a child always....

Your successes is yours and your failures is yours!!!!!

Second word is FAITH, this is one more way you can overcome your fear. Start developing your faith in your own ability, when you start getting confidence your fear will vanish from you!!!






Keep Winning!!!!
~Your madoo